Getting broken up with is never easy.
Being the person who breaks up with someone is never easy.
Regardless of which part you play (if you have a kind heart) you will either feel bad or feel sad.
This time I was the one broken up with.
It took me awhile to seek God and ask Him where I went wrong? What I could have done differently? What I shouldn’t have said? What I should have said?...the list goes on and on.
Honestly, I will never know what happened. I think God places people in our lives for different reasons, and different seasons (some longer than others).
Rejection is something I have spent my life trying to avoid at all costs and now here I was, faced with it, directly in front of my face.
It wasn’t a terribly long relationship in terms of months and days, but it hurt regardless.
And after the tears, I was able to see things from a different perspective:
- The phrase, “You can’t hold onto something that’s not yours to hold onto”. I can’t control other people. It’s that simple.
- The phrase, “Say what you mean, mean what you say”. Words are cheap and if you do use them, make sure they are sincere and genuine. I fail at this more times than I can count.
- The phrase, “Christians aren’t perfect” I made mistakes, He made mistakes, we all make mistakes. Grace and forgiveness aren’t optional, they are necessary.
- The phrase, “It’s not you, it’s me”. I have used this numerous times before when trying to let someone down easy. Even if it is “me” whoever “me” happens to be, let’s all agree that this is well over played and it’s time to stop using this.
- The phrase, “If you want something, you will find it”. I wanted a relationship, really bad, and maybe that was the case for my ex also. But I learned that even if you find something you really want, it’s not always right for you. Be cautious. Be aware. Don’t just jump in.
- The phrase “Let go and let God”. I have to trust God that in the right time, without striving or straining or possibly even looking, He will bring that man into my life. And anyone that isn’t who He wants me with is subject to removal if I desire His will to be done in my life.
I don’t take being broken up with as rejection anymore. In fact, I take it as God’s redirection, in both of our lives.
Perhaps I will write a Taylor Swift-ish type song about it… probably not. A blog will suffice.
“You have five minutes to wallow in the delicious misery. Enjoy it, embrace it, discard…and proceed”-Elizabethtown
